What is a “best friend”? Nowadays almost everyone has at least one or is one. Everyone has their own definition on what they suspect the words to mean. For me, a best friend can be someone you have known since you both were little kids. Maybe you two were neighbors and grew up together. A best friend can also be someone who you recently met and connected to well with. My definition of a best friend is one who has been with you through a ton of rough patches in both of your lives and who knows you inside and out.
Kids and teens use the term BFF to mean Best Friends Forever for me, BFF is overused. I will be in school walking through the hallways and hear others call one another their BFFs. Some people have many best friends, but I can only have one best friend. One friend who has been with me through struggles, relationships, heartaches, divorce, etc.
The friends I have now in high school most likely will not be the same ones I will have as I enter adult life. As much as I may want my best friends to last into when I am a adult, this fantasy gets in the way, “ If I put as much hard work in as they do, I am sure we will last.” The truth for me is, it’s hard to hold on. Most of the friends I have now may not be worth holding on to. I may eventually start meeting new people and turn them into new friendships.
Losing the friends I lost over time felt detrimental at times, but as each day passed by it seemed to feel easier. There was nights I lacked my hours of sleep, and struggled finding a comfortable position at night. All or most of my energy went into how to save the friendship, but I eventually realize letting go was for the best.
The reason I knew the best decision was to let go was because, if the friendship was meant to be then it would of came back together. I moved a lot growing up, so for me it was hard to make a friendship last. I could of sent a text or called them, but for me a to make a friendship work you need to hang out. I don’t like to have friendships where we just chat online, for me I feel as if I don’t really get to know the person very well. The friends that make me the happiest will rekindle. I felt like I was making a mistake in life when I made new friends. For me taking a break from the friendship was sometimes for the best. When I go to look back, I don’t think of them as a waste of time. Instead I thank them for the fun memories they helped me make, and how much of an impact they made on my life. Each friend that enters my life will have a different impact from the others, along with the memories that are made.